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Although it's difficult today to see beyond the sorrow,
May looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow.
Anon


When Someone Dies.

When someone close to you dies, whether or not their passing is expected, it is a very difficult time for those involved. It is also a time when many decisions and arrangements have to be made, very often, soon after the death, and adding to what is already a very stressful time.

You may wish to seek advice and comfort from some close relatives and friends and indeed it may be helpful to share some of the tasks and responsibilities. However, in some cases, the deceased may have already appointed a particular person to manage their affairs, either as the executor of their will or the administrator of their estate.

After the initial task of contacting close relatives and friends, What happens next will very much depend on the individual circumstances, but very soon the official notification process will need to take place and you will find it useful to have some of their personal information available to make the task of completing any forms or documents easier.

There are a few things that need to be done shortly after the death:

  • You need to obtain a Death Certificate and Register the Death at a Register Office
  • You need to contact a Funeral Director to begin to make the funeral arrangements and check if there is a Funeral Plan already in place – Don’t forget to check the will, if there is one, for any special arrangements or requests.
  • Your Funeral Director will guide you through the Funeral Arrangements, ensuring that the service reflects the personal wishes of the deceased and their family, and complies with the law.

Some Legal Matters:

You need to Check if the deceased has left a will. The deceased person’s solicitor may have a copy if you can't find one

If there is a will, the executor should start the process of obtaining probate.

If there isn’t a will you need to decide who will sort out the deceased's affairs and contact the Probate Registry to apply for 'letters of administration’

You may find it helpful to contact a Solicitor for advice.

Surviving relatives and friends of the deceased may need to make a new will to reflect their change of circumstances and it's important to ask a solicitor about this

Other things you need to do:

As well as informing people who are close to the deceased, you may need to close down accounts, or cancel or change insurance details as well as subscriptions, agreements, payments or direct debits.

This process can be time consuming and you may find it useful to prioritise some of the activities. Money and Insurance issues are particularly important, whilst Social Clubs and Magazine subscriptions are much further down the priority list.

There is a lot of helpful information available from the DirectGov website: http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Governmentcitizensandrights/Death/index.htm

Bereavement

Losing a loved one can be very traumatic and everyone grieves in different ways. There are No Rules, we just take one day at a time, hopefully getting stronger as we go.

It may seem that we are on our own but we should be aware that there are organisations who are there to help and should not be afraid to ask.

See: http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/index.html